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Because as of yesterday, our beloved Boobles was promoted to Guild Leader, I felt now was the best time ever to finish on a post that’s been saved in my drafts for quite some time.

For the past two years, I’ve filled almost every role in a guild in WoW. I’ve been the newbie player who didn’t know anything, I’ve been the semi-experience member who mostly kept to myself, I’ve been the obnoxious veteran who didn’t hesitate to butt her nose into officer business and try to help, I’ve been the frantic officer running around with my head cut off, and finally… I’ve been the regretful guild master who wished she could’ve kept it all together, in game and in real life.

After all this, maturing in game and IRL, it’s taught me that a guild leader takes a very special person, a person I learned that I myself wasn’t qualified for.

Not just anyone can run up, start a guild, and expect people to join and be merry till the end of game. You can’t much expect that in real life; can’t start a business and expect all your first employees to stay till retirement. Being through walks of life through WoW and in real life, here is Mika’s Socializing 101: Guild Leadership Guide.

Blizzard defines Guild Leadership Basics as this.

But they don’t realize the PERSON behind that title is just as inportant as the ROLE they’re filling.

Jeon Rezvani wrote a book called Guild Leadership: Lessons from the Virtual World. Jeon is an IT Senior Manger, and a gaming fanatic. Combining his real life leadership lessons and his virtual leadership lessons, this is a very informational book. More information can be found here.

One last final helpful resource for new and upcoming potential Guild Leaders is this. Warcraft Hunters Union posed a good question, and got amazing responses. What do you, the people, WANT in a guild Leader? Browsing this post will also help you in understanding if you are the type who CAN successfully lead a guild.

First a foremost, every guild leader needs to understand, and mostly accept, that they will be, for always and forever, the top of the ranks, the leader, the go to person above all other people. They will be constantly under the miscroscope by the members; every move, decision, word will be microanalyzed, and while as there will be many friends to be made, there will also be enemies.

This seems to be the hardest aspect of being a guild leader to grasp. It’s hard to put 110% of your time and effort in game, and occationally IRL, for your guild to work, only to see people become upset, and leave… some of these people you call friends.

I hope this guide will help those people who want to make it work, through thick and thin, and avoid as many unecessary quits as possible.

For starters, There are many ways to run a guild. Many, many combinations of ranks to choose from. There’s a council system, a partnership system, but this guide will primarily be fore a Monarch/Presidential System where there is one GM, one Decision Maker, one Rule All.

This is where I shall hold off and postpone part 2 for tomorrow. The reason I break it up is so the information is easier to digest. Part 2 will be much lengthier than part 1, so my advice is to read up on the resources I’ve posted above, and get familiar to the setting.


I know this is my first post in a long time, but I’m finally settled into my new home in Illinois, and I’m loving it. My friends are great, and even though it was the biggest decision of my life, I think it was a good one.

But to the point of my post.

Everyone knows the saying, “RL always comes before the game”. Yeah, understandable, right? Wedding, emergencies, or just plans with friends, those always come first before the game, right? Well, when is the line drawn when it comes to RL before the game? When it is time to say, “The game comes first before RL?”

For instance, when is it time to put a game before the interest of your friends?

I hear stories of people who are in groups where loot is given or defaulted to a friends and such, and yeah, it offends people obviously. But these are people with the mentality that even in the game, “RL before the game”. To a stranger, you’re just a faceless, nameless, nobody in the game, when they have a good IRL buddy or friend who wants the same piece you do.

Granted it’s inexcusable, but don’t we all believe that RL comes before the Game?

What about when it comes to favors?

You’re in a PUG, and a friend you know wants you to come help them or run something with them? Obviously you’re going to leave that PUG and help out your friend… why? Because they’re your friend, and RL comes before the game.

What about money?

We all know there are lowbies and new players who randomly send people tells asking for 5 or 10 gold because they need a little help, but what if a friend asks you for a loan of, oh say, 5000 gold to get thier epic flying? Well, assuming you can afford it, you will obviously loan said friend 5k gold instead of that lowbie the 5 gold because, hey…. guess what…. RL comes before the game.

What about when it comes to raids?

You wanna raid, you wanna kill internet dragons, but you’ve got friends who want to go along with more faceless strangers. Who do you take? The friend who may need a little help, or the faceless stranger who can pull numbers? Oh… hesitant? So is this the line where RL doesn’t come before the game? Interesting… because we’ve always supported RL before the game.

So you take that friend who might not be as good, and maybe you don’t get as far as you want, but hey… you had fun because it was with a friend. You laughed, cracked jokes, and helped out your freind, giving him or her a few pointers on how to improve thier game.

Or, say you take that faceless person, and you blow through the raid, getting bosses down and all these pretty purples… but what about that friend? That friend that you not only abandoned, but offended, and basically told them that they weren’t good enough. Is this really the line where RL doesn’t come before the game? Because you’d rather kill internet dragons and would rather get more shiney pixilated purple epics than keep a healthy friendship in tact with your buddy?

Oh, but they should understand.

Understanding isn’t the point. Sure that friend will smile, and shove it off as no big deal, accept they need improvement and aren’t the best pick, but that still doesn’t excuse the fact that said freind… is still hurt, and offended by your actions. Because said friend wants to improve, and wants to be good enough, and wanted to just play with his or her freind, but said friend is shunned, and cast aside because… they’re just not good enough in game.

How would that affect your relationship out of game?

Are you new to the game and looking for friends? Did you server transfer looking for a better end game raiding guild? I bet you and a group of friends are looking for that perfect glove fit in a guild that suits your needs? Well this is Mikata’s guide of what to do when looking for a guild to after joining a guild and becoming familiar with your new family. Welcome to Socializing 101: Joining a guild.

Looking for a Guild

Whether you’re new to the game, a fresh 80, or a spanking new server transfer, the aspects when looking for a guild is all the same. The only difference is the criteria in said guild that you’re looking for. Are you looking for a casual RP guild? Maybe a PvP guild? Social guild? End content hardcore raiding guild? This is the first thing you need to ask yourself is what exactly you’re looking for.

Other things include:
Do I want to be casual or hardcore?
Am I looking for a specific type of loot system?
Will I enjoy a specific planned RP event?
What about pug or member policies for runs?

But what defines ‘Casual’ from ‘Hardcore’?

There is a very VERY thin line that separates a casual player from a hardcore player. The best way to clarify which category you fall under is to look at the schedule the guild is running that you are interested in joining.

You decide what is too casual or hardcore for you. If a group is only running 2 days a week and you want to do 4, then they’re too casual for you. If another group is running 7 days a week but you still only want to do 4, then they’re too hardcore for you. Don’t bend yourself and commit to something you know you won’t be satisfied with.

Once you find the specific type of guild you want, do research on different guilds on your server. Browse through forums, blogs, and even ask around in game. 90% of the time, if you see someone in a particular guild you’re interested in just standing around, they wouldn’t mind answering a few questions regarding where to find a guild website, or to point you in the right direction of an officer who you can speak further with.

Be sure to get all your fact straight and evaluate what would best suit your needs before making a commitment.

Applying and Interviewing

Depending on the type of guild, most have an application and interview process to ensure a few things.

1.) You have a broad understanding of the guild and its policies.
2.) You understand and can commit to raid/RP event dates.
3.) You are competent regarding your class and spec
4.) If you have any experience regarding raids and end game content
5.) That you’re not a total and complete asshole.

To avoid looking like a jackass, this is why you need to do your research and know about the guild you’re applying to. When you make this commitment to join a guild, the GM, officers, and other members are putting their faith and trust in you, a complete stranger, to be honest and trustworthy to uphold their policies and reputation, to sport that flashy family title under your name.

Important Note:

Do not make a commitment you know you cannot uphold. If you are applying to a guild that raids 6 days out of the week and are doing t9 content, but you know that you can only free up 3 days of your week for raiding, this not only hinders the guild, but more greatly yourself. If you know you can’t commit to those raid days, then that’s a spot that the guild is still going to have to fill. More than likely on the days you can raid will be continuations, and the guild will only take those who can make that full commitment.

You never catch up to the guild content, and you will still wind up pugging the rest of your runs until you realize that this guild wasn’t right for you, and then you have to start the whole process over again.

”You have been invited to join the guild…”

Congratulations, you’ve successfully found a guild that you know you can commit to. They raid/RP the same days you do, they’re working the same content you can, they follow a loot system you agree with, they have policies you can support, hey… they shoe fits, right? Well that was the easy part.


Yup, all of this was the easy part, now you get to the harder, longer, more complicated process.

You’ve joined the guild, all fun and dandy. Now you have to mingle.

The hardest part of the process in joining a guild is making friends and mingling with the rest of the members. Some people in a guild will be outgoing and friendly. They’ll say hello and welcome you, but the responsibility of becoming a ‘guildie’ is your job, not the guild’s. You are the one that has to make an effort in being social.

When you log on, say hello in Gchat or OoC chat. If there’s a ventrilo server, log in and jump into a channel, say hey to everyone and ask about their day. Don’t isolate yourself. This is the most common case of member’s who quit guilds because they don’t feel ‘welcome’. Well it’s hard to ‘welcome’ someone who doesn’t want to be ‘welcomed’.

If you show an interest in getting to know your new guild mates, they will show the same general interest in getting to know you. Break the ice, crack a joke, tell them a funny scrubalicious moment you’ve done recently, after the first few minutes, everyone will start warming up to one another and everything will resume as normal laughing and joking.

You’ll eventually see a change, instead of you saying hey first, they will say hello to you when you log on, they’ll ask you to run with them, and then you know you’ve completely completed the process of joining a guild. So go forth, be fruitful, be happy… and remember, an MMO is about socializing… or else you’d be playing an RPG.


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